Falling in love is certainly one of the most amazing feelings one can experience, but if it's one sided, it can lead to inexplicable heartbreak.
Whether in kindergarten, high school, college or the workplace, it’s natural for a person to develop a crush on their colleague, friend or even a person that they've never talked to but regularly see. The phase of crushing on someone is fun and entertaining when your friends are encouraging you to take a step forward and get to know the other person better, but you're doomed if all the signs you're getting back are stating the ugly truth you never want to accept: that they’re just not that into you.
It's hard to accept that you can't really blame your crush for not feeling the same way, but you still have full control over YOUR actions. If you find out that your crush is not giving you any attention, here are some tips that can help you get over them once and for all.
1. Avoid Him/Her
You probably know the places your crush hangs out at, so make sure to stay away from them for a while. If you see them hanging around a group of mutual friends, play it cool. Talk to your friends very normally and just act like he/she does not exist. This step is usually hard at the beginning, but if you put your mind to it, you'll be able to do it.
2. Keep Busy
Always find things to do. Immerse yourself in work, a hobby or find something new to learn. Read a book, look for new TV show to watch or go out with friends -just make sure that you're constantly busy because once you start getting bored you might begin to overthink and it will cause you nothing but heartache. Physical exercise can also be very useful as it keeps you busy and enhances your self confidence, and that's exactly what you need at the moment.
3. Understand That They Aren’t Special
Recognize their flaws and start accepting that the perfect picture you had for your crush is not true. We often ignore the flaws we see in those we love, so it's time to do the exact opposite. Start convincing yourself that all the special characteristics you believed they had are absolutely normal and that anyone can have them.
4. Seek Some Bad Publicity
In almost every group, there’s always that one friend who questions the existence of another friend’s brain when they acquire a new crush. That friend could be very useful for you to get over your crush; it's time to actually listen to them and get to know why they never liked your crush in the first place.
5. Avoid Romantic Movies and Depressing Music
Romantic movies are only going to make you think about how lonely you're feeling, and you don't want that at all right now. Likewise, depressing music will create a very negative atmosphere -and when coupled with boredom, it will only worsen your condition.
6. Believe That it Wasn’t Meant to Be
A famous old saying tell us that "whatever's meant to be shall find its way," so if you believe that you've actually done your best trying to get close to your crush and got nothing back, try to accept the fact that they're not the person for you. Believe that you'll be able to find the right person someday!
7. You Can Always Look for a Rebound
We know this isn’t the healthiest option, but a fun, new crush can always keep your mind off the old one -and who knows, maybe you picked the right person this time!